As it is in any relationship, sometimes you need to move on. If you think that your relationship with your therapist is not yielding the results that you want, then you need to find someone new. But how do you even know when it is time to move on?

If you feel like your therapist is too busy for you, or is not addressing the issues that you need to address, then maybe it is time for a new therapist. If you are not making progress, and you cant get past minor details then it is time for a change. Or maybe the chemistry just doesnt feel right anymore. These things can happen. How do you tell your therapist that it is time for a change though, and how do you find a new one?

Depending on your therapist and what kind of person they are, you can be honest and ask for a recommendation. They might be able to give you one. However, if you want to try and fix the relationship, that is a valid option. If they cannot give you a recommendation, then ask your psychiatrist or doctor, or go about the steps outlined in finding a therapist. Of course, now you need to start back a little bit, which can be frustrating. You will have to start over with back story and building up the relationship again. This can be hard, but if you think it is necessary then you should do it.

Most importantly, however, is you need to make these decisions on your own. Your therapy is the central part of your care. Dont let anyone else tell you when to change or not change therapists. You need to keep control of your therapy because it is your attempt to get better. Anything less is cheating yourself.